I help people gain clarity about the state of their relationship and to make good decisions.

As a relationship coach, I know that the end of a long relationship can be a difficult, sometimes even traumatic time for everyone involved. Everyone has different needs and it is important to understand that it is a sign of strength to be accompanied by a professional coach.

Hendrik Roggemann – Relationship Coach and Expert in good breakups.

For some, it sounds unromantic; for others, it is exactly what they are looking for right now. My area of expertise is dealing with emotions that most people find unpleasant. I go to the very place with my clients where it initially hurts. Of course, only so that this will soon change.

My marriage also ended in divorce after 14 years. However, we went through the separation very consciously, with love and respect, and we are still positively connected today.

I believe that this is also possible for other couples.

This is how I approach counseling in the event of separation (although in the first step, we should perhaps take a look at whether the relationship has really come to an end): I don’t necessarily see a separation as the end of a relationship. It can also mean the beginning of a relationship in a new form. In which you no longer walk a common path as romantic partners, but can still be connected and appreciate the common past. Sometimes this requires a little distance. And sometimes it requires a lot of distance. That arises from the previous history, which we are happy to work through. Depending on what is going on at the moment.

These are the facts.

Assessing the state of your relationship – is there hope or is a break-up inevitable?

These could be signs that the relationship is over.

You hardly talk to each other anymore and avoid each other. You have lost trust in your partner. You or your partner are no longer committed to the relationship.

If you have recognized several of these signs in your relationship, you should contact me to assess the situation of your relationship together.

You are also welcome to contact me as a couple to have support in this orientation process.

A lot can be achieved through open discussions, the involvement of a coach or mediator and, of course, the will of both partners to turn things around.

Checklist: Typical signs that a relationship is over

Your partner doesn’t want to take part in counseling?

Often, only one of the two partners ends up on my website and really wants to work on themselves and the relationship. The other partner has already given up, doesn’t want to change, or doesn’t see a problem at all and says they could just move on. As sad as it is, you can’t force people to be happy.

But even then, coaching makes sense for you. With the goal of strengthening your own self and being open to the good that is sure to come.

When a separation is unavoidable

A separation is not the end of everything. It is the beginning of a new phase in life.

You deserve to be happy.

Take advantage of my professional support to get through the separation process faster and better.

Don’t hold on to negative feelings such as bitterness, resentment and anger, and harm yourself with them!

In the safe environment of separation coaching, you can also process painful and dark feelings.

In the coaching, we work out how you can do yourself good and perceive and take into account your needs in a positive way.

Let me support you professionally. This will help everyone involved in the separation process.

Avoid the following mistakes when separating or divorcing:

Don’t rush into the next relationship without doing your part of the inner work first.

The wounds from your last relationship need to be seen and healed. To expect a new partner to deal with all of this without reflecting on it would not be fair and would only lead to painful repetitions of the same issues.

Use my coaching to heal your old wounds first and to become open to a truly fulfilling relationship.